Three steps to becoming YOUR BEST VERSION

1. Becoming aware /deciding to change. We cannot heal what we do not first acknowledge. The first step to becoming the best version of yourself is recognizing what needs to be fixed, healed, changed, or let go of. It could be a trigger, an outdated mindset or beliefs, childhood trauma, a toxic partnership, bad habits, or an overall negative way of responding to people all the time. Whatever the issue, understand this is only an aspect of yourself, a part of who you are now. Because it is trauma that can be healed or an issue that can be changed for the better, it is not your authentic self or the best version of yourself. When we choose self-love and want to heal, change, do better, or be better, we start taking steps to become a better version of ourselves.

2. Going within / healing /redirecting. The second step, after becoming aware of what needs to change, is to take time to focus and see where the root of the problem comes from. During this process, our main priority is solitude and disconnecting from the world and everything around us. Many of our negative aspects come from what we experienced during childhood. That makes going within and focusing on those in-depth issues painful, which can make us want to be alone. Going through such profound awareness, wanting to change, and feeling the pain that surfaces can be challenging. Although hard, this process is necessary to heal by releasing the emotions attached to the experience, pain, and wounding. Once healing has taken place, we can begin to redirect within the space of that issue now that it has been healed. 

3. Take action / live life from the new version of you. Whether it’s thinking with a more positive mindset, replacing bad habits with healthy ones, or no longer being involved in a toxic partnership or connection, taking action is the third step to becoming a better version of yourself. Once we get to a place of healing our trauma or choosing what’s best for ourselves, we can then show up as a much more healed and balanced person. We are no longer triggered or acting out from unhealed wounds or unhealthy habits. We can then face the world with more inner peace, wholeness, compassion, and less judgment because we understand, on a personal level, the healing process and what it takes to heal our wounds and change those negative ways of being. 

NOTE: Becoming our best version is a process. Becoming a better version of yourself can take years and even a lifetime. Everyone’s journey is different, and so is the time frame. Always remember, it’s not about the destination but the journey along the way. The same goes for our healing. Accept all parts of yourself, even the negative qualities you want to change as you go through the process. You must fully accept all parts of yourself, the good and the bad, to become your best version. Be gentle and patient with yourself, and never compare your growth and healing to someone else’s. The life lessons and experiences it takes for someone else to become a better version of themselves may not be what you need to go through to become a better version of yourself. Always trust YOUR journey.

9/1/22